Coming out sucks, even for the lucky ones like me


Emma Teitel writes at the Toronto Star:

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard a straight friend say about a seemingly closeted one, “I wonder why he doesn’t just come out already? He has such a liberal family and half his friends are gay. Nobody would be upset. I would be so happy for him.”

He hasn’t come out, I tell them, because he doesn’t want you to be so happy for him. He just wants you to say “OK” and go on minding your own business. (Having friends who are enthusiastically supportive is a good problem to have of course, but it’s also, for many people who avoid the spotlight at all costs, an inhibitor to living an openly gay life.)

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